Thursdays have long been my favorite day of the week (Saturdays are a close second and by close I mean practically a tie.) Thursday is the day that I think my productivity peaks. It's the day that ushers in Friday and the weekend. Plus, back in the day, it was the day my fave CSI was on primetime. All around it's a solid day. So, what better way to honor this day than to highlight three ideas, trends, topics, articles, tips, or recipes? Ready?
Today's Top Three... drumroll, please... relationship articles. (some of you want to quit reading now and others are just going to keep reading to see if this is a train wreck of a post.) But, really as a newlywed I get sucked into the sappy, the self-help, and the silly articles about marriage, love, and life. I've come across the following articles this week alone and we've not discussed #MrandMrsBorn lately so what the heck...
1. If you've been on Facebook this week, you've seen lots of shares for this article, 5 Reasons We Can't Handle Marriage Anymore". It's a well written article that causes a twinge of sadness and a lot of introspection. Before we become unhinged about the state of marriage , let's read his article again. It's not bashing the institution of marriage, or those who let their unions dissolve; it's an honest account and theory on why we struggle and why it's still okay to abdicate true love. I think the author D'Ambrosio is spot on with the reasons he's selected to discuss. He prompted many to pause, to think, and hopefully to act.
Points three and five really resonate with me. I am so guilty of trying to capture moments rather than being in the moment. An Instagram photo might remind us of "the best day ever" but if we didn't take part, the photo is just a digital depiction with no depth. Memories are only as good as the time you had in the present.
What this article didn't iterate strongly: the undercurrent of personal responsibility that must be present in relationships. Technology and social media are not inherently bad and they're virtually moot unless we interact with the medium Figure out your own strategy to thrive. I am confident, this "generation of failed marriages" can stave off doomsday. Let us create our own integration and communication boundaries so we may live and love intentionally.
2. You might have also come across this article: How I Saved My Marriage. While the title alone might make a newlywed a little leery, it is a nice read. Think of it as preventative maintenance.
His core takeaway, take interest in your partner. Invest in them. And, success starts with a simple question "What can I do to make your day better?"
I bookmarked this article. I've read it a few times since finding it. While we are am fortunate we're not in the position the author found his relationship in, I like learning from those who have mastered how to be married. And, you can bet your bottom dollar, I'll be working to make Nick's day better each day.
3. A little Google search will yield you information on any aspect of relationship imaginable: picking the perfect partner, how to fight fairly, etc. If you know Nick and I, or you've read our first anniversary post, you know we're about as opposite as it can get. BUT that's exactly the way we like it. It works for us. I couldn't imagine it any differently. Somehow I stumbled onto this page that discussed how being in a relationship with your yin or yang can actually work. It's a quick read and it's pretty basic, which is exactly why I like it. It's about balancing each other and growing together to build a stronger unit.
Don't be afraid to be different. Find your complement. Opposites do attract.
Reading articles like this make me either a) grateful, b) inspired, or c) both. May they do the same for you.
The ol' hubby and I just reached the one and half year milestone at the end of March. Yeah, I know that's barely a ripple in the grand scheme, but I believe it's worth celebrating. I consider myself lucky to have found the man that challenges me to be me and can make my heart skip a beat. Here's to you, Lovebird!
Now, go kiss your sweetheart. Until next time.
PS If you have a Top Three you'd like to see, drop me a line and we'll see what we can do.